As I’m busy preparing for my wedding, my friend and I just caught up in a conversation about the Manglaorean traditional wedding and what customs do they follow. Hence, today i’m recalling what my grandma shared with me years ago about the weddings during her time and sharing a little here about our traditions & customs. I hope you too are going to enjoy reading this…
Mangalorean Catholics have retained many Indian customs & traditions. Roman Catholic celebrate most of the Seven Sacraments (in Konkani we say “saath Sakrament”) that includes, Baptism (Povitr-Snan), Confirmation (Thiravnni), Eucharist (Krist-Prasad), Holy Orders (Iazokanchi Sonskornni) & Matrimony (Logn).
However, the traditions & customs are revealed especially during the celebration of a marriage. Their culture is more traditional and Indian.
I recall my grandma saying about the weddings that used to take place at their time, it used to take place for more than 2 – 10 days. However, nowadays, it is just concluded in 2-3 days.
The first day celebration called as “Ros”, is done at the bride’s house and the second day at the groom’s house.
Earlier days, bride used to dress up wearing a Kirgi Baazu and a veil. Kirgi is typically a saree worn below the waist without the ‘Pallu’ and ‘Baazu’ is a long-sleeved blouse & Groom used to wear a Kaccha Kutaon which is similar to shervaani, but a bit short.
Will try to get some pictures here shortly so you know how it looks.
“Ros” or the Anointing ceremony is celebrated to indicate the last day of virginity of the bride and bridegroom and involves the parents’ blessing of both the bride and groom.
Later, it was followed by the Nuptial Blessing in Church (Resper) and finally the wedding (Vordik) and wedding party (Voran).
Other traditions include betrothal (Soirik), wedding invitation (Voulik) and exchange of betel leaves (Paan Pod or Bido) during marriage ceremonies, which was called changing hands (badalchen).
Indian traditions include adorning the bride with the wedding sari (Sado) and wedding necklace or Karyamani (Pirduk), the wearing of which indicates her destiny (Ayaponn), the giving away the bride formally by the father or the guardian of the bride (Opsun divnchen), re-invitation to the bride’s house (Porthoponn), and the singing of hymns (Honvious).
So, i’ve just written down shortly about the Ros and wedding celebrations here and I hope you have enjoyed reading. Will be up with church ceremony in my next issue. However, if you would like to know more on this, please do feel free to comment. Would love to get back to you with more details.